...Or speaking in a negative way
Toward anyone for any reason.
You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.
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Toward anyone for any reason.
You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.
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45 Wise Tips for Man
Your father probably told you a few things, but just in case he wasn’t around enough, here are some words of wisdom you might have missed out on:
Your father probably told you a few things, but just in case he wasn’t around enough, here are some words of wisdom you might have missed out on:
- Buy high quality tools, so you only have to buy them once.
- Keep a change of clothes at the office.
- Never hit anyone unless they are an immediate threat.
- Every hat should serve a purpose.
- Never take her to the movies on the first date.
- Learn to wet shave.
- Nothing looks more badass than a well-tailored suit.
- Shave with the grain on the first go-around.
- Always look a person in the eye when you talk to them.
- Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.
- Exercise makes you happy. Run, lift, and play sports.
- Brush your teeth before you put on your tie.
- A small amount of your paycheck should go directly to your savings account every month.
- Call Mom and Dad every week.
- Never wear a clip-on tie.
- Give a firm handshake.
- Compliment her shoes.
- Never leave a pint unfinished.
- If you aren’t confident, fake it. It will come around.
- You can tell the size of a man by the size of things that bother him.
- Be conscious of your body language.
- The only reason to ever point a gun at someone is if you intend to shoot them. Period.
- Always stand to shake someone’s hand.
- Never lend anything you can’t afford to lose.
- Ask more than you answer. Everybody likes to talk about themselves.
- Never have sex with anyone that doesn’t want it as much as you.
- Go for women out of your league. You may end up surprised.
- Manliness is not only being able to take care of yourself, but others as well.
- Go with the decision that will make for a good story.
- When you walk, look straight ahead, not at your feet.
- Nice guys don’t finish last, boring guys do.
- Find your passion and figure out how to get paid for it.
- Don’t let the little head do the thinking for the big head.
- No matter their job or status, everyone deserves your respect.
- The most important thing you can learn is personal responsibility. Bad things happen; it’s your job to overcome them.
- The first one to get angry loses.
- A man does what needs to be done without complaining.
- Never stop learning.
- Always go out into public dressed like you’re about to meet the love of your life.
- Don’t change yourself just to make someone happy.
- If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
- Luck favors the prepared.
- Women find confidence sexy as hell.
- Do whatever you want to do, but be the best at it.
- No one is on their deathbed wishing they spent more time at work.
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His Wife Cheated on Him for 10 Years: Don’t Waste Your Life
Says Man on Reddit
BY EDDY BALLER 21 COMMENTS
Take it from a man who has lived, yet not lived: Don’t waste what life you have.
I don’t think the urgency to do what you’ve always wanted to do could be emphasized better than with this letter on Reddit. It’s usually only when we hit a crisis in our lives, or we realize that we have wasted everything, do we see clearly what we should have done. It doesn’t have to be that way of course, but so many of us act like we have time, and we don’t. There is no time to enjoy your family, to go on your dream vacation, to learn a new language or meet the woman of your dreams.
I cringe when I hear people talking about “spare time” or “extra time” because these things don’t exist. All you have is TIME, period, and just a little. It’s passing right now, and all of the days and hours of “spare time” you’ve thrown away without purpose will never come back. If you knew that your wife was going to die of cancer, would you consider any time with her to be spare time? Guess what, terminal illness or not, she is dying, and so are you.
Our time is fleeting at best, and the reality is that every single day you waste on something outside of something meaningful is a day you will never get back, ever, and your days are numbered. If you’re lucky you will live to your life expectancy, but there isn’t even a guarantee of that. Even if you do make it to live as long as humanly possible, if you spent your entire life doing something that wasn’t worth it, what the hell was the point?
Read this letter in it’s entirety,
it just may save you from a life not worth living.
Hi, I my name’s John. I’ve been lurking for a while, but I’ve finally made an account to post this.
I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9 - 7 job.
6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.
Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.
Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20. It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams. The first, was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second, was travelling the world and helping the poor and homeless.
I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when i was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46. By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Phillipines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Phillipines.
Now, we get to where it all went wrong. My biggest regrets. I was 20. I was the only child. I needed to be stable. I needed to take that graduate job, which would dictate my whole life. To devote my entire life in a 9-7 job. What was I thinking? How could I live, when the job was my life? After coming home, I would eat dinner, prepare my work for the following day, and sleep at 10pm, to wake up at 6am the following day. God, I can’t remember the last time I’ve made love to my wife.
Yesterday, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. 10 years. That seems like a long time, but i can’t comprehend it. It doesn’t even hurt. She says it’s because I’ve changed. I’m not the person I was. What have I been doing in the last 10 years? Outside of work, I really can’t say anything. Not being a proper husband. Not being ME. Who am I? What happened to me? I didn’t even ask for a divorce, or yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING. Now I can feel a tear as I write this.
But not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realising I have been dying inside. What happened to that fun-loving, risk-taking, energetic person that was me, hungering to change the world? I remember being asked on a date by the most popular girl in the school, but declining her for my now-wife. God, I was really popular with the girls in high school. In university/college too. But i stayed loyal. I didn’t explore. I studied everyday.
Remember all that backpacking and book-writing I told you about? That was all in the first few years of college. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned. Now, I save every penny. I don’t remember a time I spend anything on anything fun. On anything for myself. What do I even want now?
My father passed ten years ago. I remember getting calls from mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting my visit off, hoping in my mind he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion. I haven’t seen him in 15 years. When he died, I told myself it didn’t matter what I didn’t see him. Being an atheist, I rationalized that being dead, it wouldn’t matter anyway. WHAT WAS I THINKING?
Rationalizing everything, making excuses to put things off. Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing. I rationalized that financial security was the most important thing. I now know, that it definitely is not. I regret doing nothing with my energy, when I had it. My passions. My youth. I regret letting my job take over my life. I regret being an awful husband, a money-making machine. I regret not finishing my novel, not travelling the world. Not being emotionally there for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet.
If you’re reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please.
Don’t procrastinate.
Don’t leave your dreams for later.
Relish in your energy, your passions.
Don’t stay on the internet with all your spare time (unless your passion needs it).
Please, do something with your life while your young. DO NOT settle down at 20.
DO NOT forget your friends, your family. Yourself.
Do NOT waste your life. Your ambitions. Like I did mine.
Do not be like me.
Sorry for the long post, just had to get it out there.
I realised I let procrastination and money stop me from pursuing my passions
when I was younger, and now I am dead inside, old and tired.
Sincerest of Regards,
John.
By Eddy Baller
Originally posted on Ultimate Man Builder
- See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/wife-cheated-10-years-dont-waste-life-says-man-reddit/#sthash.V0vGVY3l.dpuf
Says Man on Reddit
BY EDDY BALLER 21 COMMENTS
Take it from a man who has lived, yet not lived: Don’t waste what life you have.
I don’t think the urgency to do what you’ve always wanted to do could be emphasized better than with this letter on Reddit. It’s usually only when we hit a crisis in our lives, or we realize that we have wasted everything, do we see clearly what we should have done. It doesn’t have to be that way of course, but so many of us act like we have time, and we don’t. There is no time to enjoy your family, to go on your dream vacation, to learn a new language or meet the woman of your dreams.
I cringe when I hear people talking about “spare time” or “extra time” because these things don’t exist. All you have is TIME, period, and just a little. It’s passing right now, and all of the days and hours of “spare time” you’ve thrown away without purpose will never come back. If you knew that your wife was going to die of cancer, would you consider any time with her to be spare time? Guess what, terminal illness or not, she is dying, and so are you.
Our time is fleeting at best, and the reality is that every single day you waste on something outside of something meaningful is a day you will never get back, ever, and your days are numbered. If you’re lucky you will live to your life expectancy, but there isn’t even a guarantee of that. Even if you do make it to live as long as humanly possible, if you spent your entire life doing something that wasn’t worth it, what the hell was the point?
Read this letter in it’s entirety,
it just may save you from a life not worth living.
Hi, I my name’s John. I’ve been lurking for a while, but I’ve finally made an account to post this.
I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9 - 7 job.
6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.
Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.
Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20. It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams. The first, was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second, was travelling the world and helping the poor and homeless.
I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when i was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46. By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Phillipines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Phillipines.
Now, we get to where it all went wrong. My biggest regrets. I was 20. I was the only child. I needed to be stable. I needed to take that graduate job, which would dictate my whole life. To devote my entire life in a 9-7 job. What was I thinking? How could I live, when the job was my life? After coming home, I would eat dinner, prepare my work for the following day, and sleep at 10pm, to wake up at 6am the following day. God, I can’t remember the last time I’ve made love to my wife.
Yesterday, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. 10 years. That seems like a long time, but i can’t comprehend it. It doesn’t even hurt. She says it’s because I’ve changed. I’m not the person I was. What have I been doing in the last 10 years? Outside of work, I really can’t say anything. Not being a proper husband. Not being ME. Who am I? What happened to me? I didn’t even ask for a divorce, or yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING. Now I can feel a tear as I write this.
But not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realising I have been dying inside. What happened to that fun-loving, risk-taking, energetic person that was me, hungering to change the world? I remember being asked on a date by the most popular girl in the school, but declining her for my now-wife. God, I was really popular with the girls in high school. In university/college too. But i stayed loyal. I didn’t explore. I studied everyday.
Remember all that backpacking and book-writing I told you about? That was all in the first few years of college. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned. Now, I save every penny. I don’t remember a time I spend anything on anything fun. On anything for myself. What do I even want now?
My father passed ten years ago. I remember getting calls from mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting my visit off, hoping in my mind he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion. I haven’t seen him in 15 years. When he died, I told myself it didn’t matter what I didn’t see him. Being an atheist, I rationalized that being dead, it wouldn’t matter anyway. WHAT WAS I THINKING?
Rationalizing everything, making excuses to put things off. Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing. I rationalized that financial security was the most important thing. I now know, that it definitely is not. I regret doing nothing with my energy, when I had it. My passions. My youth. I regret letting my job take over my life. I regret being an awful husband, a money-making machine. I regret not finishing my novel, not travelling the world. Not being emotionally there for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet.
If you’re reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please.
Don’t procrastinate.
Don’t leave your dreams for later.
Relish in your energy, your passions.
Don’t stay on the internet with all your spare time (unless your passion needs it).
Please, do something with your life while your young. DO NOT settle down at 20.
DO NOT forget your friends, your family. Yourself.
Do NOT waste your life. Your ambitions. Like I did mine.
Do not be like me.
Sorry for the long post, just had to get it out there.
I realised I let procrastination and money stop me from pursuing my passions
when I was younger, and now I am dead inside, old and tired.
Sincerest of Regards,
John.
By Eddy Baller
Originally posted on Ultimate Man Builder
- See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/wife-cheated-10-years-dont-waste-life-says-man-reddit/#sthash.V0vGVY3l.dpuf
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| Tao Te Ching En |
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Nine Thought
Number 9-
Death is the number 1 killer in the world
Number 8-
Life is sexually transmitted.
Number 7-
Good health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
Number 6-
Men have two emotions: hungry and horny, and they can't tell them apart.
If you see a gleam in his eyes, make him a sandwich.
Number 5-
Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day. Teach a person to use the internet and they won't bother you for weeks, months, maybe years.
Number 4-
Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in the hospital, dying of nothing.
Number 3-
All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
Number 2-
In the 60's, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird, and people take Prozac to make it normal.
Number 1-
Life is like a jar of jalapeno peppers. What you do today might burn your ass tomorrow.
... and as someone recently said to me:
Don't worry about old age; it doesn't last that long.
Death is the number 1 killer in the world
Number 8-
Life is sexually transmitted.
Number 7-
Good health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
Number 6-
Men have two emotions: hungry and horny, and they can't tell them apart.
If you see a gleam in his eyes, make him a sandwich.
Number 5-
Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day. Teach a person to use the internet and they won't bother you for weeks, months, maybe years.
Number 4-
Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in the hospital, dying of nothing.
Number 3-
All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
Number 2-
In the 60's, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird, and people take Prozac to make it normal.
Number 1-
Life is like a jar of jalapeno peppers. What you do today might burn your ass tomorrow.
... and as someone recently said to me:
Don't worry about old age; it doesn't last that long.